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in no trousers,” who
said? Discontinuity
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September 26, 2012

An FYI about fucked-up people.

somaticstrength:

Fucked-up people are still fucked up when you get angry at them.

Fucked-up people are still fucked up when you are exhausted over how fucked-up they are.

Fucked-up people are still fucked up when you’re not around.

Fucked-up people are still fucked up when you decide they shouldn’t be anymore.

You cannot love away someone’s fucked-up ness.

Their love for you will not be un-fucked just because they genuinely love you.

They are not being manipulative, immature, or purposefully out to hurt you just because you expected them to be unfucked-up in a particular moment and they weren’t.

Fucked-up people’s self-perception cannot be cured just by you contradicting how they see themselves.

Fucked-up people who are fucked up because they were abused aren’t like people who just need a change of clothes. They’re like people who have spent their entire lives drowning living in a world that tells them that water doesn’t even exist, meanwhile splashing them with wet stuff constantly and wondering why they freak the fuck out.

Being fucked-up is not a thing we do that we can get rid of to please others.

So when you get mad at us for being fucked-up, we’re going to still respond as fucked up. Because we can’t just turn that off for you just because you think we should.